I'm going to have to go back and check my posts to see when I mentioned Aaron starting a new substance abuse program in jail. This program is a 12 step program. Sunday Aaron said they have completed the steps and he should be getting a certificate of completion soon. I'm wondering exactly what is involved in completion of the 12 steps. I didn't know they could be completed so quickly, or so it seems to me it was quick, I really need to check for that post. Is there a difference between completing and actually "working" the 12 steps? If he's been "working" the 12 steps then where the hell is my apology??? I think I really need to learn to let that one go but it's hard when you feel you genuinely deserve one.
And now for the brother update
He is out of jail. I don't know all of the details except for....drum roll please!!.... the "girlfriend" he is charged with assaulting bailed him out!!! She's an RN, works hard for her money and yet was stupid enough to put $2500 up to get him out. I'm taking bets on her thinking she can be the one to change him!! PUHLEASE!!!!!
And life in general
Going back and reading this post I see I sound pretty pissed off. I'm not really, just very tired. The last few weeks have been hell. It started with finding one of my sugar gliders ill. During his recovery one of my cats managed to get a hold of his tail through the cage. He is now missing almost 2 inches on his tail. He is recovering very nicely but it has been discovered that he is blind. This blindness probably caused the illness to begin with because he couldn't find his food. It is also the reason he wasn't alert to the cat being by the cage. Poor little guy!! During his recovery and while he adapts I am getting up several times a night (they are nocturnal animals) to make sure he eats and then to make sure he gets his "naps" in also. My kids as newborns weren't this much work!!
On June 17th a body was pulled from the river. Several days later the body was identified and it was my cousin. My cousin had been homeless for many years. This was by choice. To my knowledge, he is not and addict or an alcoholic but did have some kind of mental illness. He had several family members he could have stayed with but he just didn't want to. He liked being alone. He had just gotten out of the county jail on June 9th. He did 2 years for burglary but ask anybody that knew him and they would tell you the same thing, winter was coming, he's getting older (54), no excuses but it is the most likely reason, he wouldn't burden family. On June 13th, he had been at the home of his foster sister (his mother raised her). He had dinner at her house and played chess with one of her kids. She has numerous children in her house, some biological, some adopted through foster care and some are foster kids. She has always taken in high risk children. On June 29th, two 16 year olds, an 18 year old, and a 19 year old were arrested for his murder. The four kids that were arrested are her kids. One biological, 2 adopted and one was placed in her home about a month prior to this night. They called my cousin, Uncle. It makes no sense. They stole his atm card and bought $30 worth of snacks and drinks at a gas station. One of the 16 year olds has now been let go but may still be charged at a later date. The cops were told by the mother that one of the kids had placed his hands around her neck and looked at one of the other kids and asked if they ever wondered what it would be like to choke a person until they took their last breath. My cousin was beaten and then choked to death. He was then tied up and put into the river. He didn't defend himself other than to put his hands up to his face while he was being beaten. He would't hurt a fly, he was a very gentle man. We used to talk on the phone on a regular basis until the mental illness took over and he took to the streets. We hadn't talked in over 20 years but he always kept in contact with his mother and brothers. What a tragic world we live in.
